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If you are experiencing domestic violence, we can help you find important resources and services.

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What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic violence is a pattern of behavior that is used to gain or maintain power and control over a current or former intimate partner. An intimate partner is a person within a close personal relationship that can be characterized by the following traits
  • Emotional connectedness
  • Regular contact
  • Ongoing physical contact and/or sexual behaviors
  • Identity as a couple
  • Familiarity and knowledge about each other’s lives
What Does An Abuser Look Like?
  • Damages property when angry (throws objects, punches walls, kicks doors, etc.)
  • Punches, slaps, bites, kicks, or chokes you.
  • Abandons you in dangerous or unfamiliar places.
  • Scares you by driving recklessly.
  • Uses a weapon (such as a firearm or knife) to threaten or hurt you.
  • Forces you to leave your home.
  • Traps you in your home or keeps you from leaving.
  • Prevents you from calling the police or seeking medical attention.
  • Hurts your children.
  • Uses physical force in sexual situations.
  • Calls you names, insults you, or continually criticizes you.
  • Does not trust you or acts jealous or possessive.
  • Tries to isolate you from family or friends.
  • Monitors where you go, who you call, and who you spend time with.
  • Does not want you to work.
  • Controls finances or refuses to share money.
  • Punishes you by withholding affection.
  • Expects you to ask permission.
  • Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family, or your pets.
  • Humiliates you.
  • Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles.
  • Accuses you for cheating and appears jealous of your outside relationships.
  • Wants you to dress in a sexual way.
  • Insults you in a sexual ways or calls you sexual names
  • Forces or manipulates you into having sex or performing sexual acts.
  • Holds you down during sex without your consent.
  • Demands sex when you are sick, tired, or after beating you.
  • Hurts you with weapons or objects during sex.
  • involves other people in sexual activities with you without your consent.
  • ignores your feelings regarding sex
  • Sabotages your employment by stalking or harassing you at the workplace.
  • Controls how money is spent.
  • Denies you access to bank accounts.
  • Withholds money form you or gives you an allowance.
  • Runs up large amounts of debt on joint accounts.
  • Withholds funds for your basic needs such as food and medicine (including birth control)
  • Uses ASL to make you afraid with gestures, facial expressions, or exaggerated signs, then uses Deaf culture to justify behavior.
  • Signs very close to your face when angry.
  • Criticizes your speech, ASL, or English skills or makes fun of your ASL style.
  • Calls you “hearing-mind” because you aren’t fluent enough in ASL or don’t socialize or identify with the Deaf community.
  • Moves you away from the Deaf community and/or your family to isolate you.
  • Takes advantage of the lack of accessible services for Deaf survivors.
  • Denies abuse by saying it is accepted in Deaf Culture.
  • Doesn’t allow your children to use ASL to talk with you.
  • Tells you that you cannot go to a shelter because everyone is hearing.
  • Talks negatively about the Deaf community.
  • Uses power in the Deaf community to pressure you to stay.
Who Does Domestic Violence Affect?
Domestic violence can happen to anyone regardless anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion, or gender identity. It can affect anyone who is married, living together, dating, having sex, or recently broken up. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels. Family members and friends can be impacted by domestic violence, and the consequences of domestic violence can ripple out to the community.
We are all affected by domestic violence.
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